“Iftaa” clarifies how to deal with an ill-moral woman

Dar Al-Iftaa received a question in which its owner says: What is the Islamic rule on a woman who belittles a woman who does not perform prayer, divulges her husband’s secrets, deliberately distorts her image in front of her family and the abused in every way, and he left her a matrimonial home about a month ago, and during that time her father died and she didn’t share her sorrows enough with him, and she completely neglected her husband, and the husband has sworn not to return home except on his wife’s pledge, religion, obedience, and nondisclosure of his house secrets.

The house replied that if the situation is as stated in the question, we advise the questioner to seek to reform his wife before making the decision to separate from her and separate from her; As an apology to Almighty God, and in fulfillment of the right of counsel and his right over him, and so that he does not regret having missed an opportunity that was ripe to make amends, and he must be good in counsel and lead him meekly, for he is a shepherd in his family and responsible for his flock, and responsibility requires manhood, endurance, patience and suffering, and he must seek the help of supplication and prayer. advises her with whom his wife accepts their advice. .

The house clarified that the issue includes the behaviors and morals attributed to the wife that need to be assessed and changed based on the balance of Shariah. Under no circumstances is it permissible for her, or other sane adult Muslims, to abandon prayer. Because Almighty God has ordained its establishment, and the Almighty has forbidden it to waste it, and because it is the pillar of religion and its first pillar after the two testimonies, and that is the first thing for which a person will be held responsible on the Day of Resurrection, and that is the difference between a Muslim and a non-Muslim; The Almighty said: {And establish the prayer} [البقرة: 43]And He, Glory be to Him, said, “There came a successor after them that neglected prayer and followed the lusts, then they’ll meet with evil.” [مريم: 59]And he, blessed and sanctified, said: “What got into you at Saqr? They said, “We were not among those who prayed.” » [المدثر: 42-43]And the Messenger, may the prayers and peace of God be upon him and his family, said, “The covenant between us and them is prayer, so whoever forsakes it has committed disbelief. Narrated by Ahmad, Ibn Majah, An-Nasa’i, and Al-Tirmidhi, may God be pleased with him, on the authority of Buraydah.
He explains that prayer is the only obligation that Almighty God has commanded His Prophet, prayer and the peace of God be upon him and his family, without intermediary in the Ascension, contrary to all the other laws which were by the faithful King Gabriel, peace be upon him. him, and that doesn’t fall from the Muslim as long as he has a spirit that doesn’t disappear through madness, or fainting, or arrogance, age, or something like that.
Nor is a wife permitted to reveal her husband’s secrets, for she is the steward of his house and his secrets, as Almighty God has said: [النساء: 34]And she is a shepherd over her house and everything in it, as the Prophet, prayer and peace of God be upon him and his family, said, “A woman is a shepherd in the house of her husband and is responsible for his herd. by the two sheikhs, under the authority of Ibn Umar, may God be pleased with them.

It is not permissible for a wife to distort the image of her husband in front of her family or others, and it is not permissible for her to mistreat or neglect him; Because it is the gate to Heaven and its contentment comes from the pleasure of Almighty God. The Prophet, may the prayer and peace of God be upon him and his family, said: “If I had ordered someone to prostrate before another, I would have ordered women to prostrate before their husbands. , for God would not have given them the right “Reported by Al-Tirmidhi on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, and he said: It is good and genuine, and Abu Dawood has it narrated from the hadith of Qais Bin Saad, may God be pleased with him, and the text of Abu Dawood.
The husband gives the wife his sky and his fire. If she fears Almighty God in him and obeys him with benevolence, she will enter paradise, if not she will enter hell. Indeed, if you have usurped her unjustly, the angels will curse her. كما قال النبي صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم: «أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ مَاتَتْ وَزَوْجُهَا عَنْهَا رَاضٍ دَخَلَتِ الجَنَّة» رواه الترمذي عن أم سلمة رضي الله عنها وقال: حديث حسن، وقال عليه الصلاة والسلام: «إِذَا بَاتَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ مُهَاجِرَةً فِرَاشَ زَوْجِهَا لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلائِكَةُ حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ» رواه The two sheikhs under the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him.
Also, an adult woman is not allowed to remove her veil in front of strangers, so she must cover herself and her private parts. As Almighty God said: {O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters, and the wives of the believers, that they will swoop down on them with a mighty arm.} [الأحزاب: 59]، وقال عز من قائل كريم: ﴿وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ﴾ [النور: 31]The veil of the Muslim woman is well known in the religion by its necessity and the prohibition to remove it.
And the house continued: A just wife is one who takes care of her husband, shares his joys and sorrows, advises him and improves his companionship, and his right over her takes precedence over the right of his parents and all other human beings. .
If the situation is as stated in the question, then we advise the questioner to seek to reform his wife and the mother of his children before making the decision to separate from her and separate from her; As an apology to Almighty God and in fulfillment of the right of counsel and his right over him, and that he should not regret having missed an opportunity which was ripe for remedying it, the Almighty has says: [طه: 132]And he should be kind in giving advice and giving her sweet advice. Because “sweetness is not found in anything except that it beautifies it, and it is not taken away from anything except that it dishonours it”, like the Prophet, prayer and peace of God be upon him and her family, said in the hadith of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, which was told by Muslim and a responsible shepherd and a shepherd of the people of his household, and because he needs him, Patience and suffering, especially with the weak minds and warped natures of women. The Prophet, prayers and peace be upon him and his family, said, “A woman was created from a rib, which will not be right for you in a certain way; If you enjoy it, then you will enjoy it, and it is twisted, and if you go away, you have to fulfill it, then he will break his supplication, and this is a narration of Abu Hurayrah, may God be pleased from him. The Almighty said: {And ask for help with patience and prayer} [البقرة: 45]And “the Messenger of God, may the prayers and peace of God be upon him and his family, used to pray when his party – i.e. when his party became harsh – he prayed” as reported by Ahmad and al-Nasa’i the authority of Hudhaifah, may God be pleased with him. If he finds an answer from him and progress in his condition, then may he thank Almighty God for his guidance and success, and atone for his oath by not returning home on food or getting dressed. ten poor. The Almighty said, “And if they separate, God will enrich each of his abilities, and God is All-Encompassing, All-Wise.” [النساء: 130].

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