Interview with Dr. Mazen: Preserving personal spaces is one of the most important characteristics of a healthy marital relationship, but these spaces are shrinking due to increased responsibilities and life pressures, causing disagreements and psychological or physical exhaustion for one or both spouses, then the need to take a vacation or personal vacation arises.
Amman- Married life provides a station of security and stability for both parties, but it is not without the pressures of everyday life that occur in most married couples, resulting in many problems, and sometimes these problems reach the point of regret or disappointment with continuity. of this marriage .. But have both parties thought about applying the idea of marital leave?
Al Jazeera Net interviewed husbands, wives and specialists, to find out their opinions on the possibility of implementing this idea and its feasibility.
The holiday highlights the importance of the spouses for each other
Employee Najwa Amer believes that marital leave is very necessary, especially in modern life surrounded by silent apartments, so lucky is the one who gets this leave.
And she says – to Al Jazeera Net – “These holidays open up a distance of safety and peace, and renew the bonds of the relationship by being apart for a while, and also underlines the importance of the husband in his life, to pay attention to the importance of the presence of the other, and to feel as much as they present during their presence.”
Get rid of the stress of life
Saeda Abdullah – who has 3 children – supports the idea of marital leave, saying it gives space and helps get rid of the pressures of life and the details of daily routine, especially as children yearn for those who have moved on from them, and they invent ways of receiving the metaphorical part, be it the father or the mother.
And it turned out – to Al Jazeera Net – that she managed to implement the idea at the beginning of the new year, when she and her husband were planning to go visit her sister in another city. , explaining that she felt great happiness and positive energy. when she returned home after 3 days.
A window to refreshing memories
Husband Fayez Hamdan expresses his opinion saying, “During the holidays, everyone feels comfortable and relaxed, because it has a positive impact on all individuals if there is a balanced confidence for the success of the relationship. among all family members.
He adds that marital leave “gives everyone the opportunity to assume responsibilities during the absence of one of the partners, and it also opens a window to refresh memories, drawing the importance of the presence of each member of family”.
And he continues: “Sometimes it is difficult to apply this leave, due to the multiplicity of obligations and tasks of both spouses, but it is undoubtedly of great advantages, not only for them, because it is a leave for all, rest and relaxation. pressure, and provides an environment different from the daily routine, so that new problems arise, problems are solved and others attach to them.”
The leave shows the importance of the traveling husband and gives the strength to express the sincere feelings between the two parties, to renew the relationship and to rekindle and help the continuity of family life if employed in a positive way, not a way to escape family responsibilities, husband Hamdan told Al Jazeera Net.
Temporary separation from husband
Marital and psychological relationship consultant Ahmed Sariwi believes that marital leave – or temporary separation from the husband – is one of the important things to renew the blood of marriage and break the routine and boredom between husband. This leave contributes to the activation of stagnant emotional feelings between them.
It shows that “it is an opportunity for the contemplation and evaluation of the marital relationship, and the search for places of development in it. This leave allows both spouses to know the value and worth of the other gone, for the flames of desire fuel the fire of love, to rekindle the feelings between them.”
To ask for a vacation
And about how to apply this leave, specialist Sriwi – to Al-Jazeera Net – explains that he understands the spatial distance from one spouse to another, for a period ranging from several days to two weeks, the wife can stay with her family during this period, or the husband can travel on a business trip and stay in his country, and thus by realizing the spatial dimension, activate the effect of the desired positive feelings of this matter.
family day idea
In addition to the idea of family day, which is of great importance to break the routine of the week and renew energy, “I always encourage the family to go out on this day to spend a large part outside the house, and the financial question will not be an obstacle for them if the food they were going to eat at home is collected to be eaten outside. , specialist Sriwi tells Al Jazeera Net.
He describes this day as “releasing psychological pressure for all family members, and a reason for psychological closeness between them, and an increase in intimacy, togetherness and love between all components of the family. “.
Preserve personal spaces
Regarding the psychological impact of marital leave, psychiatrist Dr Mazen says in an interview – to Al Jazeera Net – “Maintaining personal spaces is one of the most important features of a healthy marital relationship, but often these spaces are shrink due to increased family responsibilities and the pressures of life or work.”
He points out that this “causes disagreements and psychological or physical exhaustion for one or both spouses, so it is necessary to take a vacation or personal vacation by one or both, to relax and find a good -physical and psychological being and clarity of mind.”
Marital leave is also useful for meeting marginalized or deferred personal needs, reorganizing priorities and solving internal problems, according to specialist Mazen Muqabala.
And Dr. An interviewed – to Al Jazeera Net – explains that “these holidays or personal leave must necessarily be a predetermined time with alternating responsibilities and resulting from mutual agreement and consent of both parties, and not by coercion, coercion, a sense of alienation or a desire to separate, but rather a way to resolve differences Increase and strengthen intimacy in the marital relationship.
He recalls that the need of individuals for these spaces varies according to their nature, which must be taken into account between spouses. According to analytical psychology, an individual’s personality is a mixture of “less social” introverted traits (Introversion) and “more social” extroverted traits (Extraversion), so the more the individual is prone to introverted traits, the more he has need time and personal space than one who has more inclinations for extroverted traits. .